Friday, May 29, 2009

“I am a part of all that I have met.” – Alfred Lord Tennyson

This is true of me and I’ve carried this phrase in my head since twelfth grade English with Mrs. Spruill. (Those who have known me that long will be surprised I actually retained anything.) I am a result of all the people, education, experiences, friends and relationships I have come in contact with. This is equally true of everyone else. That we don’t all experience the same from childhood, family life, youth, friends, school and relationships is part of what makes us individuals. It is these same differences that aid our bonding as friends.

Differences can be topics of interest and causes of attraction. These differences can also be the roots of many problems. This is where the importance of open, honest, continual communication is extremely critical to prolonged success.

I am not an expert on creating or fixing these things or providing specific relationship advice. The real truth is that I’m a single guy, once previously married unsuccessfully. The revelations of my manuscript will probably do more to keep me single for life than anything else I could possibly do or any quirks I already exhibit. In the yin yang balance of life, I guess you could deduce that my failure at marriage actually provided an opportunity for me to showcase my success at divorce.

If my perfect match does exist….she is doing a great job of hiding. If she is out there and stumbles across my book before getting to know the real me then that
alone may possibly ensure we proceed no further.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Answer: Tired of Playing Games

Reader's question: "How do I find the right guy? I'm tired of playing games."

Adam's answer:

You may be attracted to the wrong kind of guy. That might sound like a simple answer, but fixing that problem may be a little bit harder. Women have a tendency to pursue the same time of guy, over and over, even after numerous failed relationships.

Part of the solution will require you to think seriously about what it is you want as well as what type of guy will compliment your particular style.

Don't make the mistake of thinking you are alone in this challenging game our culture has created. Have a look at one man's adventures by reading my book "Relationslips" available direct from the publisher at or search 'Relationslips by Adam' through
Yahoo or Google.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Answer: Greatest Challenge from Divorce

Reader's question: "What did you find to be the greatest challenge from divorce?"

Adam's answer:

I'd say the number one greatest challenge involves trying to maintain (or build) some type of normalcy for the kids. But really...what is normal? If the parents had a bad relationship which resulted in a failed marriage then the kids most probably need a major change from what has been their 'normal'.

The second biggest challenge (or maybe first if no children involved) would be trying to get back into dating. The longer you are out of it the more lost you may feel. I was married for 10 1/2 years and felt so completely clueless once I was back on my own. It is now six years later and I'm still largely confused based on the type of women I've been meeting.

I don't think I'm alone in this situation, but I do think I'm one of the few stupid enough to put the true stories of my personal relationship failures out there for the entire world to read. Maybe it wasn't the smartest decision, but so far it has received good reviews. I've been told by some that they laughed until they cried and another said she almost urinated on herself from the hilarious way I told some stories.

I'm glad people are enjoying it, but hey...that’s my life you're laughing at!

You can find "Relationslips" online through or by searching Amazon, Yahoo or Google for Relationslips by Adam.