Answer: Can True Love Be a Numbers Game?

Reader's question: "Can finding true love be a numbers game?"

Adam's answer:

It could be that you are not yet familiar enough with yourself to understand that you may be attracted to the wrong kind of guy. That might sound like a simple answer, but fixing that problem may be a little bit more time consuming. I'm guessing that the book you referenced offers a method of reaching the desired conclusion. Your proposed theory of dating three guys simultaneously to aid development of an idea of what you both want to find as well as honing in on what you wish to avoid sounds like a triangulation strategy.

While such a method might work for some I can imagine that very many women would find themselves overwhelmed and suffer even greater confusion. Might I suggest that rather than intentionally making your dating life more convoluted

and complicated that you instead try spending some time alone in thoughtful review? I'm willing to bet that a better solution will result from your serious

meditation on what it is you want as well as what type of guy will compliment your particular style.

Remember that a successful relationship is a partnership so you have to take an honest inventory of your own assets and liabilities. Sure this sounds overwhelming, but don't make the mistake of thinking you are alone in the challenging game that modern relationships have become. Take your time; don't be too focused on the goal that you fail to pay attention to the road you are traveling.

Lighten up and have a great laugh by looking at one man's many failed dating adventures by reading the book "Relationslips." There are a whole bunch of us

struggling to keep our heads up in this same turbulent sea. Best of luck to you in your own RelationSlips!

“I am a part of all that I have met.” – Alfred Lord Tennyson

This is true of me and I’ve carried this phrase in my head since twelfth grade English with Mrs. Spruill. (Those who have known me that long will be surprised I actually retained anything.) I am a result of all the people, education, experiences, friends and relationships I have come in contact with. This is equally true of everyone else. That we don’t all experience the same from childhood, family life, youth, friends, school and relationships is part of what makes us individuals. It is these same differences that aid our bonding as friends.

Differences can be topics of interest and causes of attraction. These differences can also be the roots of many problems. This is where the importance of open, honest, continual communication is extremely critical to prolonged success.

I am not an expert on creating or fixing these things or providing specific relationship advice. The real truth is that I’m a single guy, once previously married unsuccessfully. The revelations of my manuscript will probably do more to keep me single for life than anything else I could possibly do or any quirks I already exhibit. In the yin yang balance of life, I guess you could deduce that my failure at marriage actually provided an opportunity for me to showcase my success at divorce.

If my perfect match does exist….she is doing a great job of hiding. If she is out there and stumbles across my book before getting to know the real me then that

alone may possibly ensure we proceed no further.

Answer: Tired of Playing Games

Reader's question: "How do I find the right guy? I'm tired of playing games."

Adam's answer:

You may be attracted to the wrong kind of guy. That might sound like a simple answer, but fixing that problem may be a little bit harder. Women have a tendency to pursue the same time of guy, over and over, even after numerous failed relationships.

Part of the solution will require you to think seriously about what it is you want as well as what type of guy will compliment your particular style.

Don't make the mistake of thinking you are alone in this challenging game our culture has created. Have a look at one man's adventures by reading my book "Relationslips" available direct from the publisher at http://www.RelationslipsBook.com or search 'Relationslips by Adam' through

Yahoo or Google.

Answer: Greatest Challenge from Divorce

Reader's question: "What did you find to be the greatest challenge from divorce?"

Adam's answer:

I'd say the number one greatest challenge involves trying to maintain (or build) some type of normalcy for the kids. But really...what is normal? If the parents had a bad relationship which resulted in a failed marriage then the kids most probably need a major change from what has been their 'normal'.

The second biggest challenge (or maybe first if no children involved) would be trying to get back into dating. The longer you are out of it the more lost you may feel. I was married for 10 1/2 years and felt so completely clueless once I was back on my own. It is now six years later and I'm still largely confused based on the type of women I've been meeting.

I don't think I'm alone in this situation, but I do think I'm one of the few stupid enough to put the true stories of my personal relationship failures out there for the entire world to read. Maybe it wasn't the smartest decision, but so far it has received good reviews. I've been told by some that they laughed until they cried and another said she almost urinated on herself from the hilarious way I told some stories.

I'm glad people are enjoying it, but hey...that’s my life you're laughing at!

You can find "Relationslips" online through http://www.RelationslipsBook.com or by searching Amazon, Yahoo or Google for Relationslips by Adam.

Living Life or Just Looking On

There are casual observers and active participants in

life. I’d classify myself more as an active casual

observer or maybe a slightly active observer of the

casual life events happening around me.

Fairy Tale Culture of Love

It’s no wonder so many women are completely

screwed up in their love lives. Young girls taught

mind-corrupting tales of prince charming saving her

from it all and completely ignoring reality by ending

tales with “and once they met, they lived happily ever

after”.

They’ve been taught to seek and nurture unrealistic

expectations. This fairy tale mentality results in

skewed thinking and an inability to accept and

function appropriately in reality.

Many times even women in their thirties and forties

who have been through multiple relationships and

even years of marriages(s) will continue to vocalize

their desire to “meet my prince charming” “have a

millionaire come take me away from all this”.

Sure, some might say it’s a mere fantasy, but many

women are work themselves into an uncontrollable

frenzy wondering why they have missed the socalled

gravy train. At some point an individual must

overcome dependence on fantasy and has to snap

out of it, become and adult and make a conscious

decision to either live a real life or settle for being an

angry old maid. Happiness is missed, dreams are

dashed away and ultimately many, many lives are

wasted by frivolous pursuit of some totally

unobtainable ideal.

South Florida Masquerade

I see false lashes, pasted on nails, dyed hair,

weaved or glued extensions, fake eyebrows,

Botox inflated lips, chins & foreheads;

people dressed in weird clothing either way too large

or very uncomfortably too small.

Is it Halloween?

Nope.

It’s just another day in South Florida.