Saturday, July 4, 2009

Answer: Finding A Good Man

Reader's question: "Why is it so hard to find a good man?"

Adam's answer:

Many women are looking for the wrong things. Between family, community and cultural pressures many women have grown up with drastically unrealistic expectations. Little girls are indoctrinated to believe that a prince will ride by on a white horse and whisk them away for a life of happily ever after.

Unfortunately there is a whole lot of life after meeting someone and no mention of the hard work required to develop and maintain a successful relationship is made. The majority of people are very underprepared to take on such a serious
responsibility. Most people fail to discuss and consider the things that are most critical in planning a long-term commitment. Too much focus is placed on the wedding ceremony in which she can be the center of attention as the "princess for a day" and hardly any preparation is made for that loooong time of "until death do us part". The horrendously vague “happily ever after” causes greater harm by seemingly teaching that the game is won once you’ve met and married. There is too much critical information being ignored by ending the story at the part where the real important part begins.

Because I am a man and bluntly state these views many will quickly assume that I’m blaming women for these problems. That is not the case at all. This is a big problem compounded by both men and women I think it is a cultural problem that we continue to perpetrate through the toys, games, movies, television shows and literature we expose our children too.

None of us are perfect and men overall are probably even farther down the scale. The successful relationship must be a partnership. This partnership has to be built on a strong, solid foundation with a comprehensive plan for long-term success. Sure, this sounds more like a business plan than anything romantic, but modern times require that we take all this into consideration.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that thinks are so rosy and simple for men either. You are not alone in trying to traverse this challenging maze our culture has created. Have a look (and laugh) at one man's hilarious adventures by reading the book "Relationslips" available on Amazon or directly through the publisher's website: http://www.RelationslipsBook.com

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